Remember how good it felt when you finally finished your estate plan? You answered all those tough questions, made some important decisions about your family, signed the documents, and checked estate planning off your to-do list. Done and done!
Well, not exactly.
Because here's the thing: Life doesn't stop changing just because you signed your trust. Your kids grow up, you buy a new house, your finances change, or the person you named to make decisions for you might not be the best choice anymore.
That doesn't mean your original estate plan was wrong. It just means the life you planned for five years ago might look a whole lot different today.
When I sit down with clients to review their plans, I'm not just looking at the date on the documents. I'm asking what's changed. Are the people you named still the right people? Does your plan still protect what matters most? And will it actually work the way you want it to?
With National Estate Planning Awareness Week (October 19–25) upon us, it's a great reminder to give your estate plan a little attention.
And don't worry, a review doesn't automatically mean starting from scratch. Sometimes everything is just fine. Sometimes a few things need updating. The important part is knowing the difference.
Life Changed. Did Your Estate Plan Keep Up?
Some life changes practically scream, “Hey, it's time to update your estate plan!” Marriage, divorce, moving to another state. Those are the obvious ones. But sometimes the changes sneak up on you. Maybe the person you named as trustee isn't as available anymore, or that little side business has turned into your family's main source of income.
When we review your estate plan, here are some things I want to know about:
Family changes: Marriage, divorce, new babies, adoptions, or losing someone you love.
Health changes: A new diagnosis, disability, or caregiving responsibilities.
Moving: A new state, vacation home, or property purchased elsewhere.
Financial changes: Buying or selling a business, taking on a partner, or getting ready to retire.
People changes: Is the person you named to make decisions still the right person for the job?
Now, don't panic. None of these automatically means we need to tear up your estate plan and start over. Moving to another state, for example, doesn't necessarily make your documents invalid. But it does mean we should make sure everything still works under the applicable laws.
And reviews aren't just for when something goes wrong. Sometimes life changes for the better! Maybe your daughter is now financially independent, or your family has grown. Those changes deserve attention, too.
The bottom line: Don't wait until your estate plan is collecting dust or something goes wrong. When your life changes, it's worth making sure your plan still fits.
When Your Estate Plan and Your Accounts Don't Match
You created your trust, checked estate planning off your list, and went on with life. Three years later, you bought a new house. Then you opened an investment account. But did you ever make sure those new assets were actually connected to your estate plan?
Probably not something you thought about while unpacking boxes or setting up that account.
And here's the thing: Your trust could be perfectly fine, but your assets might be telling a completely different story.
Just because you have a trust doesn't mean everything you own automatically becomes part of it. How your assets are titled and who you've named as beneficiaries matter. In fact, retirement accounts and life insurance generally pass according to their beneficiary designations, not simply what your will says.
Let's say you have two children and want everything divided equally. Your trust says exactly that. Perfect! Except you also have a $300,000 investment account naming only one child as beneficiary.
Guess what? That account may go entirely to that one child, regardless of what your trust says about dividing things equally. Not exactly the outcome you had in mind.
Now, before you start logging into every account and changing beneficiaries, please don't! Different assets require different planning. Retirement accounts, life insurance, jointly owned property, and business interests all have their own considerations. Making changes without understanding the legal and tax consequences can create bigger problems than the ones you're trying to fix.
Instead, when we review your estate plan, I want to see what's actually happening with your assets TODAY, not what was happening five years ago.
Here's what to bring:
Current account statements showing how your accounts are titled.
Beneficiary designations for both primary and backup beneficiaries.
Property deeds for homes or real estate you've purchased or sold.
Business ownership documents and any recent changes.
Life insurance information, including ownership and coverage details.
And don't worry if you discover something doesn't match. That's exactly why we're having the conversation! You don't need to fix everything before coming in. We'll identify what needs attention and determine where your financial advisor, insurance professional, or accountant should be involved.
Because a great estate plan isn't just about having the right documents. It's about making sure your assets actually follow the plan you worked so hard to create.
The bottom line: Reviewing your estate plan means looking beyond the documents. We need to make sure your accounts, beneficiaries, and property ownership still line up with your wishes. Otherwise, that beautiful trust sitting in your binder might not accomplish what you think it will.
The People in Your Estate Plan Aren't Standing Still
You may still want to leave your money to the same people, but that doesn't necessarily mean you want them receiving it the same way.
Let's say you created your estate plan when your kids were little and decided they'd receive their inheritance outright at age 25. Seemed reasonable at the time, right? Fast-forward a few years, and your child is now 26, starting a business, taking on debt, and navigating adulthood. You still trust them, of course! But is handing over their inheritance outright really the best way to protect them?
Or perhaps a child has developed a disability and now receives government benefits based on their income or assets. An inheritance that made perfect sense years ago could potentially jeopardize those benefits. The goal is to help your child, not accidentally create a whole new set of problems!
And let's not forget about the people you've named to be in charge. That trusted friend you named as trustee ten years ago? Maybe they've moved, developed health issues, or simply have enough on their plate. The same goes for the people you've named to handle your finances or make medical decisions.
Someone can love you dearly and still not be the right person for the job.
Family relationships change, too. Maybe you're helping a grandchild with college, caring for an aging parent, or have a stepchild you'd like to include. And remember, just because everyone in the family knows what you want doesn't mean your estate plan actually says it.
The good news? You don't have to figure everything out on your own. Tell me what's changed, what's concerning you, and what you want your inheritance to accomplish. We'll work through the options together.
The bottom line: Estate planning isn't just about WHO gets your money. It's about HOW they receive it, whether they're protected, and whether the people you've put in charge are still the right people for the job.
Updating Your Estate Plan Doesn't Have to Be a Whole Thing
One of the biggest reasons people put off reviewing their estate plan? They're afraid it's going to turn into a whole expensive project! You mention one little change, and suddenly you're worried we're going to tell you that everything needs to be redone.
Not so fast! That's not how a good estate plan review should work.
Sometimes all we need to do is confirm a beneficiary designation or update some contact information. Other times, a simple amendment does the trick. And yes, sometimes your family, finances, or goals have changed enough that a bigger conversation makes sense. But we figure out what needs attention FIRST, then decide what work actually needs to be done.
Changes in the law can also affect your estate plan, even when nothing in your personal life has changed. But that doesn't mean you need to panic every time you see a headline about estate taxes or retirement accounts. What matters is whether those changes actually affect YOU and your planning.
When I review an estate plan, I'm looking at more than whether the documents are legally valid. Do they still say what you want them to say? Are your assets properly aligned? Does everyone involved understand their role? Those are the questions that really matter.
And before we wrap up, I want you to have a clear understanding of what's next:
What needs updating now, and why?
What's perfectly fine just the way it is?
Who's responsible for taking care of each item?
What documentation should you keep?
When should we check in again?
One important reminder: Please don't grab a pen and start making handwritten changes to your signed documents! That's not necessarily going to accomplish what you think it will. Let's make sure any updates are handled properly and that your family can easily identify the current, effective documents when they're needed.
The bottom line: Reviewing your estate plan doesn't automatically mean starting over. Sometimes a few small changes are all it takes to make sure your plan continues working the way you intended.
Leave Your Family a Plan, Not a Puzzle
Imagine the person you've named to step in and help you suddenly needs to do just that. You can't explain where things are or what needs to happen next. Sure, knowing where your estate planning binder is helps. But knowing which documents are current, who to call, and what you actually wanted? That's what really matters.
That's why I always say estate planning is about so much more than signing a bunch of documents and putting them on a shelf. It's about taking care of the people you love and making things easier for them when life gets complicated.
At 20West Legal, we're not just here for signing day. As your Personal Family Lawyer® firm, we want to understand your family, your finances, and what matters most to you. And when life changes, we're here to help you navigate those changes so your family isn't left starting from scratch with someone who doesn't know your story.
The bottom line: A great estate plan isn't just one you have. It's one your family can actually understand, find, and use when they need it most.
Let's Get That Estate Plan Off the Shelf
Here's a little homework for you! Think about the three biggest things that have changed in your life since you last reviewed your estate plan. Write them down, dust off that estate planning binder, and let's make sure everything still works the way you intended.
At 20West Legal, we don't believe in cookie-cutter estate planning. Your family, your finances, and your wishes are unique, and your Estate Plan should reflect that.
And remember, our relationship doesn't end on signing day! We're here as life changes, and when your family needs guidance, they'll know exactly who to call.
Ready to give your estate plan a little checkup? Schedule a complimentary 15-minute discovery call today: https://pages.20westlegal.com/schedule/15-minute-intro-call
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